Q: My partner of three years and I have a 1-year-old child; there have never been any issues of infidelity on either part. However, I recently discovered that he has a secret email address. Although I don’t have the password to get in to the account, I was able to find out the pass code to change his password in order to gain access. I know that breaking into his account poses huge moral issues, as well as trust issues, but I can’t get this out of my mind. What should I do? - Curious and Confused

A: Having the means doesn’t give a licence to cross boundaries. Nor do you have any evidence of his wrongdoing. You could’ve picked up a phone extension to monitor his calls, steamed open letters addressed only to him, even followed him to work every day to see if that’s where he really goes. But you didn’t because “there have never been any issues of infidelity.”

Meanwhile, his secret email address could be a holdover from the past – a private address he’s never bothered to change; or maybe it’s the one he uses to vent frustration with his buddies. Ask him, if you feel you must.