There are boyfriends or girlfriends who have sex with someone outside their current long-term relationship, and then there are cheaters. Cheaters are those so emotionally attached to another person — be it a close friend or everyday acquaintance — they distance themselves from their current partner.
It’s no newsflash: many people cheat. But you don’t have to take your clothes off for another or even touch someone outside your relationship to be unfaithful. I’m talking about “emotional infidelity,” an idea alien to me until recent conversations with some female friends who are in this psychological mess.
After discussing it with them, I opened the debate about emotional cheating to several guy friends, who were left utterly confused.
Downplaying this kind of intimacy by the cheater or the one cheated on is a matter of deceiving oneself. Make NO MISTAKE, Emotional infedelity through intimacy under the mask of “its just a good friend” is a dangerous and costly passifyer for EVERYONE involved! Even as a therapist who is who failed to recognize the warning signs of a relationship in trouble, my one pearl of wisdom from experience; Understand that this type of emotional deception outside one’s primary relationship, is like a boomerang, simply because at some point we all have to deal with our own shortcomings in obtaining AND maintaining that level of connection with the same person over an extended period of time,-after the honeymoon is long gone.
Comment by dissapointed — April 23, 2007 @ 10:04 am